What If They Say No?
"No" is just a conversation starter. We literally do not take no for an answer, and neither should you. No is nothing more than a word, and it holds little power. Behind that 'no' is a 'yes' waiting to come out. If your loved one says no to coming to the meeting, to treatment, counseling, or other prescribed course of actions, there are several strategies you can use. Prepare yourself and the iTeam ahead of time to reply them.
Strategy #1
Use a technique to get a lesser commitment.
Strategy #2
If you hear 'no', take a break. Set a time to reconvene. Give everyone to cool off and just chat. Get together again and calmly state the case for change again. Reiterate the behaviors that concern you and your desire that the loved one get help. Do not negotiate, bargain, or debate. Keep it simple. Stick to your major points and documented, observed behaviors of concern.
Another form of 'no' is if they say, "I can do it on my own". In response, tell them, "We don't think that will work, but let's try it your way for thirty days and see how things go". Of course after the 30 days is up and they have failed to get help and nothing has changed, you will meet again and ask them to go into a higher level of care an support.
Strategy #3
Always try again. Schedule another meeting and invite them again. There is no such thing as a failed meeting. Each time we gather, you plant another seed.
Strategy #1
Use a technique to get a lesser commitment.
Strategy #2
If you hear 'no', take a break. Set a time to reconvene. Give everyone to cool off and just chat. Get together again and calmly state the case for change again. Reiterate the behaviors that concern you and your desire that the loved one get help. Do not negotiate, bargain, or debate. Keep it simple. Stick to your major points and documented, observed behaviors of concern.
Another form of 'no' is if they say, "I can do it on my own". In response, tell them, "We don't think that will work, but let's try it your way for thirty days and see how things go". Of course after the 30 days is up and they have failed to get help and nothing has changed, you will meet again and ask them to go into a higher level of care an support.
Strategy #3
Always try again. Schedule another meeting and invite them again. There is no such thing as a failed meeting. Each time we gather, you plant another seed.